In the movie Cinderella, the original version from Walt Disney, everyone is invited to a ball by the King who is making a desperate attempt to find a wife for the Prince. The Prince is not very enthusiastic but agrees to the ball. As everyone knows, the ball is where the Prince meets Cinderella and they immediately fall in love with each other. Would you say they were soulmates? Does everyone have a soulmate?
According to Merriam-Webster.com a soulmate is defined as “a person who is perfectly suited to another in temperament". Another description of the word soulmate by Merriam-Webster.com is “a close- friend who completely understands you”. Most people tend to have several close friends. Let’s say the average person has about 3-6 close friends. Of those close friends 2-3 are of the opposite gender. Logically speaking, this means that people have more than one soulmate. For the people who don’t really have any close friends, do they have a soulmate? Aren’t people supposed to marry their soulmate?
There are people who prefer solitude and there are also priests and nuns. These people have committed to a life without a husband or wife either because they would rather not be in a relationship or for religious purposes. When it comes to soulmates, does this mean that these people have met their soulmate but rejected an intimate relationship with this person or have they just kept their relationship on the friends level. As soulmates they should be close friends and understand each other really well but do people who become nuns and priests still end up loving their soulmate? As soulmates, do both people have to love each other romantically?
Personally, I believe people choose their own soulmates. Just because you get along with someone doe not mean you and them are destined soulmates. It just means you have found a good friend to be with. Although, I do believe Cinderella and the Prince have set standards for what a soulmate must be. People in this generation think that anyone who they get along with or have intimate feelings for must be their soulmate. Everyone has one soulmate. Whoever you marry must be that one someone. I disagree. I feel that everyone has several people who they are compatible with but sometimes you may not recognize this based on certain circumstances. I feel that although people should marry their soulmates, it doesn’t always happen that way. This doesn’t mean they are preventing themselves from having a good life, it just means that they are able to adapt to other people and therefore are able to become soulmates. In relationships, people change and grow together. Through the trials, they learn new thing about each other and base future actions on what they have observed. I believe people who are nuns or priests have adapted to a life without a soul mate by focusing all their emotions to a supernatural being. Whoever was supposed to be the nun or priest’s soulmate before they devoted themselves, surely has more that one “soulmate”.
Honestly, I don't think people should base their happiness on one person and wait for their happily ever after. Make it happen yourself. Whether you have a soulmate or not doesn’t mean you'll be forever alone and wont be happy. You may end up marrying someone else and you will grow together with that person and be happier. Even if you don't end up being married, you still have friends who are there to support you. Happiness can come in all different forms and usually comes through unexpected ways.
Adi Alsaid: “I urge you to please notice when you are happy.”
